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29 June 2005 @ 07:58 pm
Gay (or str8) Relationships...  

I'm curious! We of course know that there are many 1 on 1 monogamous gay relationships! I think it's something that at least MOST of us wish for. BUT...what do you guys/gals think about nonconventional relationships? Commited trios or more? Is this something you could do? Something you desire? There is the Howard Roffman set of pics (One above) featuring a commited 3some...In the story that Jase and I are writing, I have a group of 5 married elves...I must admit, as a fantasy, I find this idea kind of exciting, but in reality, I wonder if I could do it! I'm ashamed to admit it, but I can be VERY jealous...shocking, I know! LOL!! SOOOOOOOOO...what do y'all think? Could you be involved in a nonconventional relationship? What kind do you see yourself in?

To help, I found this list on a Gay LJ community (Not sure where...sorry!)...thought it was interesting...

1. The possession by a woman of more than one husband at the same time; -- contrasted with {monandry}.
2. Generally the husbands are subservient to the Mistress.
3. Usually involves communal living arrangement.

Polygamy :
1. The having of a plurality of wives or husbands at the same time; usually, the marriage of a man to more than one woman, or the practice of having several wives, at the same time; -- opposed to monogamy; as, the nations of the East practiced polygamy.
2. The state or habit of having more than one mate (male or female).
3. Generally has a Master in which the wives / mates are subservient.
4. Usually involves communal living arrangement.
5. Usually but not neccesarily exclusive / closed.

1. The state or practice of having several wives at the same time; marriage to several wives.
2. Historically used term to describe a poly "family".
3. Usually involves communal living arrangement.

Polyamory :
1. "Loving more than one". This love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof.
2. "Polyamorous" is also used as a descriptive term by people who are open to more than one relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one.
3. Loosely used in the past few decades to mask "swingers" groups under a poly label.
4. Members may or may not be "faithful" and practice "open relationships".
5. May or may not have Master / subservient hierarchy.
6. Sometimes involves communal living arrangement.

Polyfidelity :
1. Relationship involving more than two people who have made a commitment to keep the sexual activity within the group and not have outside partners. (Rumor has it that this term was coined by the group Kerista.)
2. Often has a Master and subservients.
3. Usually involves communal living arrangement.
4. Elements of Polyequity sometimes involved.

Polyequity :
1. Poly relationships that are not primary / secondary based, yet not really about being "equal".
2. "Secondary" pertains to issues like long-term marriages or relationships that add new partners and those partners desiring to have equal respect and to be of equal value without necessarily being equal in all the ways acquired by long association and relationship investment (like children)."
3. Not neccesarily exclusive.
4. Sometimes involves communal living arrangement.
5. Usually does not have Master and subservients (members are more "equal")

Line Marriage:
1. Poly relationship with empahsis on polyfidelity.
2. The group is usually even-numbered (4 / 6 / 8 ect.)
3. This family is generational : usually an older couple, mid-aged couple, younger ones; and as the elders die, new and younger couples are added to the group, thus truly perpetuating the family.
4. Usually involves communal living arrangement.
5. Master(s) are typically the elders.

1. Often a single person merely haveing sexual relations with many different people.
2. Sometimes a couple will regard their "open relationship" by this term.
3. Usually does not involve communal living arrangements (sometimes yes).
4. Normally does not involve feelings of love or committment.
5. If a master/slave situation occurrs it is usually just for "play" reasons.

Dan the gnomebrewergnome on July 1st, 2005 12:15 pm (UTC)
Right now it's all written out by hand. At some point (soon most likely) I'll get a first draft of the first chapter typed out. And then, yeah, I'll share it. Seminar today at noon, so I'll likely get another small chunk of chapter two done.

I still need a good gaelic last name for one of the main characters. Right now he's Gryffin Aeducan (which means 'little fire') but I don't think I like it. The other biggest character is Adam Hawke, followed by Adam's friend who keeps changing names (Ceilidh, Aislinne so far, but I'm thinking I might switch it to an African name... or Asian... she plays flute and whistle and harp)
Mark: guy Mattboywondermark on July 1st, 2005 12:30 pm (UTC)
All good names! I use the net to dig up names for all of my characters! There are tons of resources!!
Dan the gnomebrewergnome on July 1st, 2005 12:32 pm (UTC)
First names are only a matter of choosing. Last names seem to cause me much greater difficulty. Especially when I'm actually trying to signal an ethnicity/history with them.
Mark: ros3boywondermark on July 1st, 2005 11:09 pm (UTC)
Yeah...surnames are alot tougher! I have to dig alot deeper into family histories and surname searches...yadayadayada!